While researching recently, I ran across this article written by a young woman who possessed a truly special gift. The gift of having received unconditional love. She writes:
“Two years ago I lost my grandfather. He’d been ill the last time I saw him and I knew it was coming. And yet, I was still not prepared for the depth of my grief. I had lost loved ones before, but while I had loved them, they weren’t him. He was special. He saw me.
If you know what it means to be seen, I don’t need to say anymore.
If you’ve never felt seen, let me explain what that feels like: It is the very best feeling; better than love, better than friendship. It’s looking into another’s eyes and seeing complete acceptance, acknowledgement, and the truest form of love.
And I got that from him. Every time he looked at me. Every conversation we had.
Every moment we shared together. And then he was gone. He moved on and I was left feeling/worrying that I would never know that kind of love again. That I would never be seen.” (Yule-Rosen)
That “complete acceptance, acknowledgement, and the truest form of love” she describes is what we all crave as human beings. The unconditional acceptance that says you are just fine just the way you are, imperfections and all. It’s an emotional embrace…….that transcends our psyche into the very depths of our spirit, and fuels it, fanning it into a bright flame that lights the space surrounding it. Yet, how many of us, had a far different experience with the people who we spent most of our time with growing up?
When we extend this type of acceptance and true acknowledgement, we play a part in making our world a better place. Why? Because the better people feel about themselves, the more their self-esteem develops. When people have healthy self-esteem, they treat others better. Communities and societies function better. Everyone wins!!
Today, with the people who come across your path, practice unconditional acceptance and love. It IS a conscious choice, this business of loving people. Even the people who are difficult to love, that we have “issues” with, can be extended love when we separate who they are from their behavior. We don’t have to like or agree with what they have done that upsets us, but we can CHOOSE to love them as human beings anyway. Their VALUE as a human being is separate from the behavior they may be, in our opinion, foolishly or hurtfully choosing.
If we VALUE others, then we do our utmost to not mistreat them. It results in the world becoming a better place simply because we chose to extend love. Change your world today…..one person at a time!
Sources cited: Yule-Rosen, M. “Are You Hiding Yourself in Fear of Being Fully Seen?” Tiny Buddha – Simple Wisdom for Complex Lives. Accessed August 16, 2017 URL: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/are-you-hiding-yourself-in-fear-of-being-fully-seen/